Grieving – How long does it last?

Grieving is a complex process, it is not the same for everybody and nobody reacts in the same way to it.

Factors such as attachment, type of death are really important in how an individual is going to face their grieving. For example, if you lose a co-worker that you have been working with for years, it is not the same process than if you lose your wife, or if you lose your cat, so the expectations in every single event are totally different.




Taking the previous paragraph as base line, it depends in how traumatic was the experience for you, there are cases when you know that someone is close to die, because of a terminal decease for example, then family and friends have “enough” time to confront the situation in a better way, because in fact they started already an internal grieving about that, so when this person dies they are not that impacted, but when you have to face the death of somebody because of an accident, that changes everything, it could be really traumatic and derive some other issues, including a severe depression for example.

So, in short, as you can see there is not a “standard” grieving time, all you have to do is “grieve” that grieve well, what do I mean by that?

What is grieving well?, read our post about this topic here!

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The 5 Stages of Grief

What are the stages of grief? or the well known as the 5 stages of grief?

Here a little bit of story before explaining them.

The Kübler-Ross model postulates a series of emotional stages experienced by survivors of an intimate’s death, wherein the five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

The model was first introduced by Swiss psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying, and was inspired by her work with terminally ill patients.[1] Motivated by the lack of curriculum in medical schools on the subject of death and dying, Kübler-Ross examined death and those faced with it at the University of Chicago medical school. Kübler-Ross’ project evolved into a series of seminars which, along with patient interviews and previous research, became the foundation for her book. Since the publication of “On Death and Dying”, the Kübler-Ross model has become accepted by the general public; however, its validity is not consistently supported by the majority of research.[citation needed]

Kübler-Ross noted later in life that the stages are not a linear and predictable progression and that she regretted writing them in a way that was misunderstood.[2] Rather, these are a collation of five common experiences for the bereaved that can occur in any order, if at all.




So, the 5 stages are (Also known as DABDA):

  1. Denial — The first reaction is denial. In this stage individuals believe the diagnosis is somehow mistaken, and cling to a false, preferable reality. In this stage you don’t realize what is happening is actually real, here is when you say thins like “This is NOT happening” and you truly believe it.
  2. Anger — When the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue, they become frustrated, especially at proximate individuals. Certain psychological responses of a person undergoing this phase would be: “Why me? It’s not fair!”; “How can this happen to me?”; ‘”Who is to blame?”; “Why would this happen?”.
  3. Bargaining — The third stage involves the hope that the individual can avoid a cause of grief. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. People facing less serious trauma can bargain or seek compromise.
  4. Depression — “I’m so sad, why bother with anything?”; “I’m going to die soon, so what’s the point?”; “I miss my loved one, why go on?”
    During the fourth stage, the individual becomes saddened by the mathematical probability of death. In this state, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time mournful and sullen.
  5. Acceptance — “It’s going to be okay.”; “I can’t fight it, I may as well prepare for it.”

In this last stage, individuals embrace mortality or inevitable future, or that of a loved one, or other tragic event. People dying may precede the survivors in this state, which typically comes with a calm, retrospective view for the individual, and a stable condition of emotions.

It is important to note here that these stages do not necessarily occur in that order, you can actually start in a really depressed stage and then move over, get to the acceptance and months later step backwards, etc.

If you look at the Biografield logo, you will see the representation for every single stage, additionally to that all the tributes comes with a GriefMeter that help you flag how do you feel in regards to you loss.



Grief Control used by Biografield
Grief Control – > Biografield (Check an online Tribute here )

How much times does it take to cover all the stages? Read our post about this and more helping information here.

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IQ Radio Interview – Costa Rica 2016

On March 8th 2016 Biografield was invited to IQ Radio Costa Rica to talk about the project, respond questions, etc, it was a great experience for us.

We are really pleased with IQ Radio for all the support they gave us.

We were on cabin with Wendy Cortés y Yancy Hernández in their show called Equilibio Mental.



IQ Radio Interview

Facebook link:

https://www.facebook.com/genteiq/photos/a.10151109446917564.537630.284761077563/10154636950642564/?type=3&theater

 

The oldest dog in the world has died – RIP Maggie the Kelpie

Maggie the Kelpie, an Australian dog that was possibly the oldest canine in the world, has died.

Owner Brian McLaren, a dairy farmer in Woolsthorp, Victoria, confirmed the news to The Weekly Times.

“She was 30 years old, she was still going along nicely last week, she was walking from the dairy to the office and growling at the cats and all that sort of thing,” he told the newspaper, adding that the dog has started deteriorating two days previously.



At the age of 30, Maggie was over 200 in human years, and a contender for the oldest dog in the world, but Mr McLaren had lost the original paperwork for the dog, meaning that her age could not be independently verified.

Officially, the title of the oldest dog in the world still belongs to Bluey, an Australian cattle-dog from Rochester in Victoria, which reached 29 years and five months. According to the Guinness Book of Records his owner bought him as a puppy in 1910 and he grew up to work among the sheep and cattle until he was put down in November 1939.

 

How To Make an Online Memorial for a Departed Loved One

Your online memorial should be special, at Biografield we have created the tools for you to create a really special Tribute for your loved one.

What information you need? Only your memories, some nice pictures, maybe a song that represents something for your loved one and you, etc. You can pack the tribute with all the information that you want.

So, now that you know what is needed, you can open up Biografield in case that you are not registered, if you are already registered with Biografield just login and navigate to the tribute creation area.



The form looks like this, just fill out the fields and click on Create Tribute.

Creating a new Biografield Tribute
Creating a new Biografield Tribute

What is an online tribute or memorial?

Like in real life, when a loved one dies family and friends get together to honor their life, remember what their likes and dislikes were, and speak about their life in general; You can do the same thing online and THAT is what we call an online memorial or an online tribute.

An online tribute is basically a space on internet for you to remember with your family and friends the life of your loved ones, no matter is it is a pet, a person or even a group.

This kind of spaces give the opportunity to give the honor they deserve online, usually you can add pictures, videos, histories, and more things depending on the tribute that you want to create, Biografield gives the opportunity to not only upload all the images that you want, but also gives the opportunity to add badges to the tribute, badges that represent the life of your loved one.

Online tributes are great options to have all those memories always in the same place, and pass them from generation to generation.

Create a FREE online tribute today at Biografield (www.biografield.com)

Victims of Ecuador Earthquake – April 17th, 2016

 

Biografield tribute:

https://www.biografield.com/tributes/Victims_of_Ecuador_Earthquake_-_April_17th_2016/

On April 17th, 2016 Ecuador suffered a fatal earthquake, currently the fatalities jump to 238; more than 1500 injured.

Ways to help:

  1. United States Fund for UNICEF https://www.unicefusa.org/donate/support-unicefs-emergency-relief-programs/30257
  2. Cruz Roja Ecuador/Ecuadorian Red Cross https://www.redcross.org/donate/0316-d
  3. Oxfam International https://donate.oxfam.org.uk/emergency/ecuador
  4. Global Shapers Quito https://www.generosity.com/emergencies-fundraising/ecuador-earthquake-emergency-relief–2

El 17 de abril del 2016 Ecuador sufrió un fatal terremoto, actualmente las muertes ascienden a 238 y más de 1500 heridos.

Puedes ayudar de las siguientes maneras:

  1. United States Fund for UNICEF https://www.unicefusa.org/donate/support-unicefs-emergency-relief-programs/30257
  2. Cruz Roja Ecuador/Ecuadorian Red Cross https://www.redcross.org/donate/0316-d
  3. Oxfam International https://donate.oxfam.org.uk/emergency/ecuador
  4. Global Shapers Quito https://www.generosity.com/emergencies-fundraising/ecuador-earthquake-emergency-relief–2